It Happened FOR Me - Brian Kelly
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: Hey welcome to the Mind Body Business Show. All right. It's not actually a formal show. I just had a few things I wanted to talk about because it's a long time till this Thursday to the next show and we have an amazing, amazing guest coming on. His name is Denis Nurmela. I cannot wait for you to meet him. Amazing entrepreneur has helped build multi-million dollar businesses. The man is just on top of his game and he's just one of the most heart centered people I've met. I just want to talk about you know. Have you ever had one of those days? You know one of those days, you know what I'm talking about where things don't seem to go right and they accumulate one after the other? Well that happened recently and this is not a woe is me and boo hoo and that's not a rant, just to set the table. The thing is, several things occurred. This actually happened last Thursday. First of all, this very show which I take deep pride in testing thoroughly all the technology that goes behind it. There is a lot, by the way. A lot. A lot of moving parts and I had a very phenomenal guest on by the name of Alex Branning. You may remember seeing him but not hearing him. Yes. Ergo, there was one of the problems. That the sound wasn't coming through and I didn't know until we were partway through the show and a couple of people started commenting on the Facebook Live that you know we can't hear Alex. I was like - "Oh man I hope it's really gone through and it's just on there end" the whole time right. It's an hour long show. And the thing is I didn't feel bad so much for myself, if things were going bad. I was more concerned about the fact that my guest Alex, he had invested his valuable time to be on the show and even before the show behind the scenes, most people don't recognize this but there is a test session that occurs several days before the actual show to ensure all of these technologies are working properly together. The interesting thing is I could hear him just fine on my end. That was a very intriguing thing. It happened to be just one component just one where the sound driver had not been properly assigned to the right output. And now I know. And so you know I was really dejected. I spent several hours, several hours. I took the resulting recording of that video, and rather than dump it on somebody to take care of it, I felt at cause for this. This was my own doing. I did not thoroughly test, even though I spent hours and hours and have several successful shows prior to it. It's fun with technology. So I just hunkered down and I pulled up my big boy pants and I went to trying to salvage that video and went through every segment where Alex spoke. The thing is his voice came in partially through this microphone - came out of the speakers of my system back into this microphone and you could hear him faintly so I went through and turn up the volume spend hours again then publish the video and uploaded it. It just did not come out good. It wasn't pretty. So I felt really horrible. And Alex was such a wonderful guy about it. I mean, what a wonderful reaction. And I promised him we're going to have them on another show it's going to be August 16th. And all of this technology will be working. I was a bit dejected. I'll be honest. I'm a human being I've got feelings I'm not always that positive guy that some of you think. Things like this happen. And then, then the next morning I get a text from somebody. I'm not going to point fingers or name names. I was glad that somebody told me that they received a text announcing the show at 1:15 AM. Like, What? So, I use a service that it's a phenomenal service and a setting, most likely yours truly made a booboo somewhere instead of setting it to go out at 5:15 PM the prior evening the following morning at 1:15 AM. I'm sure that upset a few people I got a text that didn't have their phone turned off. And boy, if you're one of them I deeply apologize for that. That has also been remedied. So there was number two. And then it got even, well I wouldn't say better, it got worse. Next I receive a text. This is the following day actually but it's one right into the next. Next. I got a text from my son. I'm in the middle of working out and he said I just got rear-ended. I'm on this street and this street. What? And it was a text, so I'm thinking. "Oh no, now what?" And we've been going through a myriad of car issues, let's just say, of late. Several of our vehicles have been in and out of the shop. It's been an interesting little run of late. The first thought was of course are you ok? He didn't say anything so I'm assuming so but immediately I called him, you know voice, that's the thing we do, these older folks do is voice. And I called him and everything was fine. He was fine. Turned out to be a multiple car accident. He was sitting in front of the line at a stoplight and there were two vehicles behind him. And the the fourth vehicle that was involved in it came around behind and hit the vehicle two cars behind him hit the one right behind him and then him, like an accordion effect. And thankfully, for him, he got the least brunt of it. In fact you have to look really close to see the damage. However there is damage and it's not going to be cheap so we have to go through insurance, all that fun. The beautiful thing was he was OK. The unfortunate thing was the first person in line, I should say the last person in line that ended up getting the first impact from the person at fault. Apparently she went into shock and was taken in to the emergency room. And I hope she's OK. So that was the third. So it was kind of this roller coaster of where the old me could have just said my gosh this string of events just outright sucks. I could just say that and just be upset and pissed about my life for that couple of days. But, rather instead, I decided yeah things sucked. They weren't cool. But it all depends on it's not what happens to you really. It's really how you react to it. To what happens to you. And so one great, amazing reframe that helps in all of these situations is instead of saying something like "that happen to me," is reframe it and say "Well that happened FOR me." Well wait Brian you just had three horrible things happen. Well one horrible and two just annoying things horrible being the car accident and yeah. So how could how could the sound quality going bad be something that happened for me? Well if I twisted around and look at learning that could come from it as well. I need to be even more stringent in my testing in my pre-show checklists, which I have. And I go through literally with this pen and check off each item 30 minutes before the show with the other person, the guest expert on line with me and still missed that one. So it happened for me so I can revise and better dial in the show and make it better for everyone of you. So that was one thing. Then the second thing was the service that didn't go out. Again, more for me to verify, double-check. There was a setting in an area of the service that I probably messed up but didn't even realize it had impact on the actual sending of the messages. And so I just said "Well, that happened for me so that I can be more you know take more time and put more energy into the pre-everything checklist for shows going on." And I have a before-show checklist, a right-before the show checklist a during-the-show checklist, and I have a post-show checklist. Still inadequate and that's OK. "It happened for me." Again, I don't feel good for my guest expert and I apologized profusely. And he was just so gracious in accepting that apology and said no big deal Brian, let's knock him dead next time. And that was phenomenal. And that's the kind of experts I have on this show. They all have a certain mindset. They're very positive, they're integrity based. And that's why I bring them on for you. Can't wait for the next one with Denis and I certainly can't wait to do the next show with Alex because my goodness, the quality he provided was off-the-charts amazing. I cannot wait for you to meet him for the first time in voice. You could see him but you couldn't hear him. I was just looking over some quick notes I jotted down. Yeah. Son is good. "It happened for me." That's really the only thing I wanted to get across here today was just talk about times. You know we all have them. No matter what level of success you have achieved ... actually it really turns out to be, the more successful you are, the more issues you have. It all comes down to how quickly you deal with them and get past them and over them and beyond them. That's really what it comes down to. And so just wanted to impart that to you. I'm not perfect, of course. I was upset myself personally. Wasn't too happy that this all happened. And yeah, you can still turn situations that aren't so great into something that better serves you. So this has been an impromptu version of The Mind Body Business Show. I do not have a bookmarks section for you today. We don't have a guest expert today. Wait till Thursday. Thursday is the day. This Thursday. So go to TheMindBodyBusinessShow.com. Go to the TheMindBodyBusinessShow.com and there you'll see an opt-in form. It will show you the upcoming guests that are coming on and then an opt-in form. 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How blessed are we that our son had a car and he's OK. So now looking at that we can now look at all the great things. We're blessed that he had a car that he was able to have transportation to go to and from his place of business, his work. How blessed was I to be able to have a show to bring this great value to you to begin with. To have the technology around me and the knowledge to put it together over the course of years and experience and God's blessings. There are so many good things that come out of everything in life. It's again not how you react to it. It IS how you react to it it's not what happens to you but it is how you react to it. All right. Enough of my preaching. I can't wait to see Thursday. This Thursday evening 5:30 PM Pacific Standard Time. Go to the mind body business show dot com. TheMindBodyBusinessShow.com. And just enter your information. You can opt-out at any time. We grant/honor all those requests automatically, it's all automated. We don't play any games. I'm looking forward to seeing you there. Take care and we'll catch up on the next Mind Body Business Show. All right, I'm out. Have a great one.
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