Special Guest Expert - Micaela Passeri
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Welcome to The MIND BODY BUSINESS Show. The three keys to your success is just moments away. Here's your host, Brian Kelly.
Hello, everyone, and welcome, welcome, welcome to The MIND BODY BUSINESS Show. We have got an amazing, amazing show lined up for you tonight. I cannot wait to bring on our special guest expert. You are going to love her. She is an amazing young woman who is on fire. She is just a trailblazer who is helping women, female entrepreneurs and men to to be the best they can be. And I cannot wait to bring her on. And it will be very soon, I promise. But first, The MIND BODY BUSINESS Show. What is that all about? Or for any of you that have not seen the show before? Real quickly, it's all about the three pillars of success that I call it that I found in my travels. I have been studying successful people. And what I found is those successful people exhibited similar patterns and traits and they all stemmed from these three areas, one being mind or mindset, mindset being the subconscious mind, having an empowered rock solid positive. And it's not all just about positive mindsets up reprogramming your brain for greater effectiveness and success in your life. And the beautiful thing is our guest tonight, Micaela is an NLP expert, as am I. So we're gonna have fun tonight talking a little bit about mindset as well as other things and body. I noticed that successful people tend to take care of themselves. I mean, physically, that's by exercising regularly. It doesn't mean you have to exercise every single day of the week. It doesn't mean, guys, that you need to become a bodybuilder and look like Arnold did in his heyday. And ladies, it doesn't mean that you have to look like a supermodel. It's not about looks. It's about feel. It's about performance. And when you exercise on a regular basis, so many unbelievable positive benefits transpire. And we're not talking just exercise when it comes to body. It's also about nutrition and the things that you feed your body, the things you intake. And that was another trait I noticed amongst successful people. And then a third, of course, which is the sweet spot for everyone watching is business. And business is multifaceted. And I found that those that are successful have mastered many of the areas that it takes to become successful in business. And that's like that includes things like marketing, sales, systematizing, team building, scaling. It goes on and on. And the good news is a lot of that may sound you know, it may sound like it's just too much. Brian, I can't I can't master all those. The good news is you don't have to because you can outsource those things that aren't in your wheelhouse and bring on a team to help you. And collectively, you master all of these areas and then you become successful. And that's why I form the show was to help you, the viewer. This show is for you. It's not for me. It's not for Micaela and all my other past guests is for you to learn to model from those who are successful who have achieved the level of success that you desire to achieve. And one final thing that I remember that most very successful people do is they're avid readers. They are very into reading books that help in all of these three areas. So with that, I like to very quickly segue into a segment I affectionately name "Bookmarks."
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There you see it on my side. This is ReachYourPeakLibrary.com. And real quickly, for those of you watching right now live, or even if you're watching or listening as a recording, please do yourself a favor and take notes rather than going off and looking at resources. So Micaela and I will be giving you resources, different Web sites as the show progresses. Reach Your Peak Library being one of them. And the key is that the magic happens in the room, as they say. And so if your happen to be off looking at Web sites or researching other information while the show is going, then it's very likely you're going to miss one of the most valuable pieces of information that could be life changing from Micaela. When I bring her on, she's going to be bringing a ton of value. So I really not want for you to miss anything. So just stay with us. Take notes. Write it down, if you can, physically using a pen and paper because you'll retain it much better. But reach your peak library. What is that? I literally put that website together for you with you in mind. The entrepreneur or the business person? The person looking to find ways to get farther, faster. And what I've done is I could have compiled a list of books that I've personally vetted. I've read all the books in this list. In fact, far more. I've been a long way behind and updating this list. But there are plenty here for you to choose from. And all of these just strictly go to like Amazon. So you click a button and you can purchase the book on Amazon in any of the forms that you desire, you know, audible or hardcover or Kindle, you get to choose. But the key is, is to start reading. If you're not reading already, if you are reading already. This is a good list. You can go to and might. You might find a gem or two in here that you have not yet read. This just helps you to save some time in sifting and sorting when it comes to finding the perfect book to read the next one. And by the way. Perfect book. It doesn't need to be perfect. The first one that jumps off the page that you haven't read yet. Just pick it and go with it and read it. Take action. Action takers are rewarded. Speaking of action takers, we have an amazing person waiting in the wings, chomping at the bit. I cannot wait to bring her on. In fact, guess what? We're not going to wait any longer. Let's bring her on right now. Here we go.
[Informational screen] It's time for the Guest Expert Spotlight. Savvy. Skillful. Professional. Adept. Trained. Big-league. Qualified.
And there she is, ladies and gentlemen. The one they only Micaela Passeri, you got it practiced in that name all night. Well, a little bit. Not too long. How are you? Micaela I'm doing much better today.
I've been sick for the last couple of days. So much better to them.
Well, you look fabulous. You wouldn't know it from our end. Just glowing literally right up in that beautiful high rise you're at. You're in Los Angeles, downtown as we speak.
Is that correct? I am. I am. I'm at the city club here in L.A. And unfortunately, you can't see the skyline anymore because it's dark. It's a little bit of the lights right there. But the beautiful sunset a few moments ago, just moments ago as we were talking pre-show.
It was gorgeous back there. But you know, what would distract from your beauty? So we're good. We're good. So real quick. What I want to do, Micaela, is to introduce you.
But before I do that real quick, I want to remind all of our viewers, listeners that stay on to the end, because those that do, you'll have an opportunity to win a five nights day at a five star luxury resort in Beautiful May Call. And this is all compliments of our good friends at PowerTexting.com. They are sponsoring the show with that trip. He's the owner of power texting dot.com himself has used this very service, this vacation that we're offering for free. He has gone on a vacation to Mexico now five times. So it is not one of those timeshares that you're going to end up being wrestled into. Once you show up, it's 100 percent above board and you get to enjoy yourself. So stick on to the end for that. Now, speaking of values, speaking of fun, let's bring on our wonderful guest, Micaela. She is an award winning emotional intelligence expert, international speaker, author and founder of the Love You Revolution Training Programs, who is committed to helping entrepreneurs identify, resolve and release emotional and mental blocks in the way of their full success by freeing themselves from the conditioning of their life experiences and the trapped emotions hidden in the subconscious mind. You remember at the opening we talked about this. I'm so excited. There's gonna be fun.
She helps her clients resolve issues such as low self-confidence. These are big inner conflict anxiety fears. Everyone has fears, procrastination. I don't procrastinate. Well, yes, everyone does. Limiting beliefs that's rampant for sure. Depression and business stagnation. There's one that hits home for a lot of people. She's trained in an LP mvr and emotion code.
Micaela helps people on a soulful journey to discover their voice, become more self-aware and master their inner and outer relating to the world. This is like right down the path of all the NLP stuff that I've come to know and learned from the training. This is phenomenal. She's also the founder of the Love You Revolution clothing line. Talk about accomplished former co-president of the Santa Monica Wholistic Chamber of Commerce and current regional director for the Global Women Club of Los Angeles.
Ladies and gentlemen, I now formally introduced you, Miss Micaela Passeri.
Hello. Thank you so much for having me. Man, you read my bio really great. Never heard it read that way.
Go. Go. I'm not at the record you next time.
Well, it just so happens it is recorded. You can use that anytime you want. If it helps you in any way, that's that's what you and I are all about entrepreneurs. We love to connect people, to help people, to serve people. We're here to help each other lift each other up. Not to compete and push other people down. I can tell that from the moment I met you, this is several months ago during the summer, I believe Micaela. And it was a it was a amazing event there. And I could just sense right away that you had that serving, that heart of serving. And, you know, just reading your bio, I could tell you you're there for people.
And what I wanted to do is what I love to do. Every single show is. So the bio tells us about your accolades. It gives us a good background of your experience, of the things you've accomplished. And then what I like to do is shift gears a little bit. And now let's go a little bit more inward.
We're not gonna go too deep, don't worry.
But what I want to do yeah, what I want to do is find out what makes successful people such as yourselves tick mentally, what's going on in that beautiful mind of yours. And so like I like to talk about. Morning, right? If you're like me, not everyone is. But if you're like me, wake up a little groggy. You kind of raise up a swivel around your feet, hit the floor. You start to awaken and then that drive kicks in.
All of the things that you've done that you've trained your mind to do, that you've reprogrammed your mind for, in your case with an LP and others when it comes to maintaining your positive and productive and successful mindset. What is it that you do? Micaela, on a regular basis to sustain this? Because it's not always perfectly easy, is it?
No, it's not. And it is you know, it is part of life. It's its efforts. And you have to be committed to doing it right. It's it's not something that you can just kind of have haphazardly have happen. And so you've got to be committed and you've got to make a choice to do it. So the things that I love to do every day are meditates. I just recently completed a course in Vedic meditation. So I love to do my two meditation 20 minute sections every day. So I meditate to really ground myself and really relax and lower my stress response. Meditation is the first one. I also have affirmations. I actually wrote a book on affirmations and how to write affirmations. So there are certain affirmations that I say every day and sometimes I retire some when I feel complete and sometimes I write new ones. But I'm saying my affirmations every day. And then I write my goals down. So I really write down what it is that I want to accomplish, whether it's for the day or even at monthsand or a few months down the line or next year. I've got a list of the things that I want to bring into my life. So that I can ensure that I experience my life deeply and with fulfillment.
And one thing I noticed, another pattern that I hear and notice, every single successful entrepreneur and that's everyone that's been on the show always have their own specified routine. Either it's in the morning or it's the night before or a combination of both. But every single time someone who has anyone who has achieved success in their business and their life has a routine. And I liken that to something I call discipline. And I don't mean that in the negative term that many think about. It's a positive thing to have discipline, to have a routine. And the thing is, if you don't have a routine, as I like to tell viewers and listeners, is go ahead and model what Micaela is doing. It's successful for her. It doesn't mean it will be for you, but at least start and start that. Start with affirmations. That's a beautiful thing. And your goals review your goals and update your goals on a daily basis. And those are all phenomenal. Those are just phenomenal tips to go forward. Affirmations specifically, even with, you know, A.P., we go into the subconscious mind. Affirmations is a conscious level effort. It is still very powerful, as you obviously know, because you practice it and so on. And so these are nuggets already for those of you that are watching and listening. I hope your writing notes already because this this is how we roll. We just provide supreme value. And that's why bring on the best. The best. Like Mikaela to share her with you because this is all about her. She's an amazing woman. Speaking of amazing, well, you're very welcome. Speaking of amazing woman, it takes a lot of effort. It takes a lot of skills and skill sets to to acquire to become successful in any business. Would you agree with that?
Absolutely, absolutely. I think some for some people, some stuff can happen a lot faster and easier than others. And sometimes it's phase of our lives like I can't speak for myself. There was a part spec phase in my life where success happened really fast and kind of like unconsciously. And then there was another phase of my life where I was actually Ephron. And that's because, as you and I know, it's what's done in the subconscious mind, especially if we're we've experienced things that were producing a lot of negative emotions and a lot of negative self-talk. We might write to deal with our actions and our success in a different way. So absolutely it's it.
It is an effort, especially when you have very specific goals and very big goals that you want to accomplish. So it's it's it's about commitment and taking action.
And I loved in the bio that you wrote. It was amazing. I loved reading the part about, you know, freeing people from the conditioning of their life experiences because that's what happens. Right. That's how we we come up with our own specific limiting beliefs. It has nothing to do with reality. It's only our own life experience that programmed us into believing that. And it's it's not like it's your fault. And the good news is, is any limiting belief you have can be overwritten. If you want to think of a program, you can just overwrite it with something more empowering through using tools like neuro linguistic programming like Micaela can help you with. And that's amazing. That was something I learned somewhat recently. It was, gosh, seven, eight years ago. And then it just changed my life forever. That's all I did. A big deal.
Just check it out.
I mean, I'm not a dramatic person. I don't I don't see that lightly. I don't see that every day. The only thing I see that change my life is an LP because it did profoundly. And the reason I'm bringing that up and kind of emphasizing it is if you are looking to have your life changed in a wonderful, profound, very safe arena, then we will give you a means to connect with Micaela at the end of the show.
And don't go off searching for her now. Write down her name. That's fine. But stick with us because she's got more golden nuggets for you.
It's amazing. And that's where I found a Micaela that all success, whether you have it or not, it all comes from one place, the same place. And it's our mind. Do you agree with that?
Yeah, absolutely. And what I wanted to say is something that you you just spoke about is that it is part of the human experience. Conditioning is part of the human experience. Nobody escapes. It doesn't matter how rich you are, how poor, what color your skin. How much money you got in your bank account. Everybody gets conditioned. But that's just because we're human. Right? And so it's it's it's how then once we become aware. Right. Of our pattern's and our conditioning is what we do with it, because everything is an interpretation. It's how we relate to the experiences that we're experiencing and what we make up about ourselves in the world, about that experience. And so, you know, in in I like to say if it's to be, it's up to me. So if I want to create something, I get to decide how and I get to decide, you know, how and how much I'm gonna put myself in the game. Right. So it is it is about getting your head straight. Getting your heart straight and and then taking the action.
The thing I love about it is both components are definitely there, meaning subconscious and conscious activities. I loved what you said is being aware. That's it. That's number one. Be aware of that. Yeah. You know, to be aware that there's issues that like I like to say catch and I talk to I have a team and I I teach and preach to them. Catch yourself. If you ever say anything that starts with. I have to. And think about that. I have to do the dishes and nobody likes to do dishes. I don't. Well, I shouldn't say nobody, but I know I don't. Most people don't. Instead, reframe that and say I get to. So be aware that you see. Now you see, I get to. And it just changes everything. I get to. What does that mean? I mean, that's a very subtle. Now the subconscious takes over and says, oh, yeah, I get to I'm blessed. I have this is the wash, I have to say. Exactly.
I want this to wash like that. People in the world that don't have dishes don't have a sink. Right. So we're we're very privileged and blessed to have the things that we have in our life. So exactly. It's not a have to it's a get to.
Exactly. And so from the conscious perspective, easy tools and techniques like that can literally start reshaping how you think each and every day. And it all comes first, as you said, Micaela, with awareness. Being aware that you actually uttered those words out loud or even thought them internally doesn't reframe it really quick as fast as possible. I love this topic.
We could talk about nothing but mindset all night and I would not be the same freaking geek out. Absolutely. The rest of the night. Right.
In fact, I'm going to be doing some timeline therapy this weekend for a client. I can't wait. It's tax timeline. Yeah, that was my first ever experience on the receiving end was releasing fear. And wow, I just said I have got to learn this so I can help others because that was amazing. And we're just talking about one of the five major negative emotions. I was like, wow, wow, wow. So let's shift gears a little bit, if we might go into the area of business and.
The thing is, it's difficult oftentimes for I see it all the time. People have a difficult time in acquiring clients, in bringing on new life. I guess we call it leads. It's just that's that's got kind of a negative connotation. A more but they're, you know, getting more eyeballs to our our business, to our message so that we can then help them. It's about helping them and serving them. And hey, how do you. Micaela? This is something I'm always curious about. This is comes from like a marketing sense. How do you build your successful customer base? What what means do you. I get it. There are many different ways to do it. But what comes to the top of your head is maybe the one or two go tos that you use to create that customer successful customer base.
Yeah, well, I have a lot to say about this topic actually, because I do lead a group, a women's business club here in Los Angeles called Global Woman Club.
And I see it with a lot of my members and a lot of the lady and also my clients as well, that we say that we want more clients, yet we're not willing to take the actions and to do the necessary things that it requires us to do to get more clients. So I say this because I'm now on the other side, but I was once those people. Right.
But nobody ever, never really heard anybody kind of state it in that way to me. So I understand because we all have our staff and we all have reasons why we're afraid to put ourselves out there, afraid to be seen, you know, afraid of rejection, ridicule, embarrassment, whatever that is. And so it's it's hard.
Yet we also get to really kind of have a little chat with ourselves and say, okay, wait a minute, if I say I want clients, I can't just sit here and twiddling my thumbs and hope and wish that clients are gonna come knocking on my door, I got to take action and I've got to put myself out there. So the first and foremost thing that I would tell people is you got to put yourself out there. So what does that look like? Well, networking. Start talking to people. Start looking for speaking engagements. Go speak about what you're passionate about, what you feel. You're an expert in what you know. That comes easy for you, right? What comes easy for you and difficult for other people. Those are great things to start speaking on, really being courageous, even if you have that sense of fear of what might happen or what people might think is really still taking action, even though you're afraid, because that's when you're going to really build that inner confidence and you're going to see the results. Right. I know that wasn't until I really stepped out there and took that courageous step into speaking, into having, you know, speaking my my having my voice heard and speaking my truth, that I started seeing people resonate and the people that started resonating with me. Eventually, it became clear. Either became clients or became people that I was networking part of my network so that I could either joint venture with them or refer people to them or they refer to me. So the other thing that I want to tell people is like when you you are putting yourself out there. Don't always think, OK, I've got to get someone. I got to. I've got to get a client because it's not about getting a client. It's about putting yourself out there, allowing people to hear what you have to offer. I don't like hearing your heart and your passion and your truth and then having them out of select themselves in it. And then the people who auto select themselves into your space, they might then become clients, but they might not.
So it's really about creating the connection and creating the relationships that then will fruit into something. It's about really planting seeds, but it starts from taking that action. Right. And so what I would it's a long winded way to answer your question, but it would it would be definitely just starting to put yourself out there through networking and speaking and sharing, sharing what you have so people know, because if you're not sharing, people don't know what you're about.
Ladies and gentlemen, what Mikaela just shared with you is worth untold amounts of money. I'm not kidding. I mean, I got writer's cramp. I was right. I was taking notes in the back because everything she is, she just said was so spot on and so like, perfect. All of it. It was amazing. Put yourself out there. I like to say just show up and continue to do so, you know, and that you just speak. Thank you for saying that. Yes. Get out there and speak. And, you know, get out of your comfort zone. You know, if you're feeling afraid and you want to develop courage, the one way to do it is to do it and to do it over and over. Right. And the more you get out of your comfort zone, the more the more success you're going to find. Get in the habit of being uncomfortable and forget who said it. But someone said get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Right. Right.
To succeed, someone else said 80 percent of the work is showing up, right? Yeah, it's us. You know, it's us efforting inside our head through all of our resistance. Our thoughts are not our conditions, but really our considerations. That's what is the word that I was looking for is our considerations of why we shouldn't do it right. So 80 percent of the work is going through all that interior conversation and interior turmoil to get there. And then 20 percent is is easy. It's just you being there. Right, and sharing yourself.
You said the magic word resistance is the magic word. And here's a beautiful tie in with this. Get together with Micaela and have her take you through timeline process of releasing fear that will reduce, if not eliminate much of the resistance that is going on in your head. When you come up to things where you know it's good for you and you feel that discomfort, that's usually your subconscious telling you you're on the right track now. Just push, nudge, go. Won't you go through the timeline therapy with Micaela then that resistance is greatly reduced if not gone, and you will now start moving forward in all the areas that are better and more empowering for you to improve in business and personal relationships.
Yeah, and I would also say if you feel uncomfortable, that's the reason why you should do it. Because the more uncomfortable you feel, the more and you feel called to it that that means that that's where you're supposed to go. So. If you feel uncomfortable speaking in front of a crowd, do it, you feel uncomfortable picking up the car, following up on all the business cards that you've got at an event. Yeah, that's uncomfortable showing up on a show like this and talking about what you do, do it.
And that's the thing. If you just make it conversational, I was just gonna say there are different ways for you to cut your teeth like somewhat say, well, where do I. I don't even know how to get on someone's stage. Brian or Micaela. How do I do that? You can create your own like I've done here. In fact, I will peel the curtain back. I used to speak on stage quite often and loved every moment of it. I took a step back to rebuild. I just completely transformed and changed my business model completely, literally five months ago. And so I said I better I'm going to stop speaking from stage and build my platform and then get back up there. This what we're doing now, this life show is my way of continuing to show up and be on quote unquote stage until I'm ready to get back there on the physical stage. You know, put together after the platforms put together. And so this would be a perfect way for anybody can do this. You all know this now. Facebook like, get your phone out, start practicing. Just go live. You get a friend to. Come on. Interview them. Have fun. Enjoy it. Just do it. That's the bottom line. That's what Micaela is telling you. It's just do it. That's like a Nike commercial.
But, you know, I still love him. It's so perfect. Yes, exactly.
And actually, you know, for those of those who are listening. There are lots of organization just like global women. Right. Some global woman is a speaking and PR platform.
So when you come to our events, you get as a member, you get to speak, you get to actually it's a place for you to practice and show up and tweet and tweak and, you know. So lots of organizations out there that you can join and just start.
That's a perfect example of a kind, loving, supportive environment with which to do that. That's a great place, because now your confidence can get boosted to the point where now you can step out of the nest and go speak elsewhere outside of that comfort. And again, you want to do that. So don't just stick with a comfortable area with one group. Always look for that next step out. If you're asked to speak a guest, speak, never say no, no matter how small a crowd or even what the what the topic is, unless it's outside of your value system. But that's one thing I learned is never say no. I've I've just spoken on a young man's stage. He barely was in college. And it was about poetry, a class or a group about poetry. I talked about entrepreneurship. I found a way to make it work. Just always say yes. Always say yes. That's that's just my tip for the night.
It's like, what was this, Jim Carrey? Yes, ma'am. That's the movie.
My favorite, one of my favorites. I use that. I've used that in my presentation when I was speaking from stage. It's part of that's one of my slides with him there on it. It's awesome.
Yeah, it isn't a great idea. And it's a movie. It's a gripping depiction of what happens when you're always open and you just say yes to life, yes to what comes into your space and at the ends, everything's all right.
So, you know, that could literally be something that they use as a curriculum in school for entrepreneurism. Is this is. Yes. Man, the movie, you know, you got to take with a grain of salt, recognize it is a comedy. So if you don't, you know, go crazy and say yes to absolutely everything in the movie.
It is a lesson, isn't it? It's a great lesson. It really resonated with me. I'm like, that's how you succeed in life, is you look for ways to say yes rather than are typical. Go to nine other time now. And I'm like, no, no, no. That's because we were ingrained with the word no from growing up, you know? Don't touch that. Put that away. Put that down. Yes.
The human experience. Go.
There you go. You know, I've met a lot of people in the business arena.
Some are in it, obviously, to me for a quick kill to get in, to make some quick money and to get out and really not worry about any value they left behind. I think we've all met people like that. High, you know. So that's a you know, that could be a success pattern for short term success. But long term, it's not something that that lasts. And, you know, some people will go beyond normal means to succeed at all costs no matter what.
I don't care who I leave in my my wake, my trail.
I've run over. And so I'm curious because. Comes up a lot where, you know, people are struggling to succeed. Want to have guidance and know, well, how far should I take that? And what are the rules governing that to keep me in a space of value. But I still need to stretch myself a little bit. So in that light, Micaela, what would you tell them?
Like, how far are you personally willing to go to succeed? What would you go? To what extent? Just let. I'll just let you answer that, if you can, to help the people out that are struggling with that issue. Yeah.
Well, I guess it depends on your interpretation of the what are the costs. Right. So I. The way that I would interpret that is what are the prices that I would be willing to pay? Right. So what are the prices that I would be willing to pay to succeed? Well, the prices that I would be willing to pay would be sleepless nights. You know, working hard, putting a lot of effort, being ridiculed, being rejected. Right. Maybe having things take longer than they would, maybe having to invest more money than I thought. Right. So those are the prices that I have been and is still willing to pay because you have to success. Success doesn't come. Nobody's entitled to success. Right. It is something that you get to earn based on the value that you provide. And yes, like you said, brand, there are some people that kind of maybe do things not honestly and not kosher. Right. That aren't kosher. But if you're willing to stand in your value, standing your truth, be honest, be transparent and then willing to take a look at the prices that you're willing to pay from a standpoint. Okay. Well, what am I willing to do? I know I'm willing to keep going. Right. I'm just willing to keep going. Like I'm not going to. I don't take no for an answer. I just keep finding a way to figure it out. And that's worked for me, because I'm also I'm a pretty big risk taker. I will take risk. I take inspired action. Some people that's uncomfortable. So there are some people that might not be the way. But for me specifically, I I go for it. So sometimes that means I might lose something, I might lose money, maybe I might lose time or sleep. But but that's kind of it's the keep going. It's just kind of keep going and take a look at what prices you're willing to pay for it.
I'm glad you brought up the part about risk taking, because that is yet another attribute of successful entrepreneurs. It's it's almost impossible to become successful if you are adverse to taking risks. It just comes down to how big a risk are you willing to take for yourself and your own personal situation? And that's for you to decide. Yes. You know, it would be a good idea to bring on, say, a business coach and have someone help you along that path. Who's been there, who's done that, who has maybe regrets about taking it a little too far. And look, you're all human.
And that happens. I've done it. I've gone way too far. Oh, my gosh. I did so at the expense of my relationship at the time with my wife. And this is many years ago. Thankfully, she communicated with me and she was honest and I was able to help right that ship. And now we're like, you know. Two peas in a pod. And but I've made mistakes. We all make mistakes, we're all human. It will never be perfect, will it?
No, it's not going to be perfect. Nor, look the way you think that that is so true.
That is so true. And that's why being flexible is so important. Another attribute. And with neuro linguistic programming and tools like that, that's where you can become more like that. You can be more flexible. You can be aware of what you're thinking and saying and right the ship immediately and just start on down a path of, you know, progress, of performance, of moving forward rather than just, you know, trying to wing it. And, you know, there's no reason to reinvent the wheel. All you need to do is model success.
That's it. All you need to do is model Micaela and people like her that I've had on the show. Just model what they're doing.
Meaning copy. Micaela, do this. Does everyone watching and listening, do they have your permission to copy you to do to follow your advice and do what you've been telling people that you do that that help?
Absolutely. Yeah, absolutely.
So first of all, if I if I can do it, everybody can do it right.
And if I've achieved it by the team did, why wouldn't I want everybody else to decide?
So oftentimes when I use the word model instead of copy because of the connotation that brings with it, that brings back thoughts of, you know, elementary school and rulers that would smack the back of hands for those who are cheating.
Back in my day, they were allowed to do that.
But it comes up with a negative connotation. But really modeling, you have absolute permission. And it's not just permission. It's you must it's a it's a necessity. It's a requirement for success is to model those who have preceded you. And guess what? What do you do you think maybe Micaela modeled some people to get where she is now? Yes. So just continue the process. Do what successful people do. Follow the recipe for success. You only need one. One recipes, all you need. There's many out there. Just pick one.
And one is right next to me. And then just follow. And guess what? It'll be much easier path than if you tried to reinvent the wheel. That's an ego play if you're trying to do it all on yourself. Out yourself. I used to do it. I've got to go. Everyone's got ego. But the sooner you can let go that ego and allow help to come in. Get coaches get help. Get a team and get training for your mind through Micaela and her team. Then you know, now you're on the path to success. Big time. Quickly. Much quicker than before. Let's put it that way, because success, like you said, doesn't come that quick. But you do need to be persistent. Have discipline and but you need to have the right tools, coaches and resources. So there's a lot.
And the other thing, Brandon, that I wanted to say is you can model. Right. But then you make it your own. I've modeled people, but I've put my own spin to things, my own personality. So you can model, for example, me or Brian. And then just put your Lidle's your little flavor to it, your little tweak. It doesn't have to look exactly. But just what feels good to you. You just do it.
And that's a great addition, because now you are being authentic to yourself. And those that are meant to connect with you will be connecting with you because you're doing it from your own space, your own twists.
If you're just mimicking and robot like a robot of like someone else is successful and you're doing everything exactly the way they did it, well, they're going to be falling in love with that other person, not you.
Or it might not feel authentic to you. Look, just like you said. I remember many years ago I was coaching with someone and this coach, she was advising that I that I it was just something that didn't feel authentic to me. It felt kind of like flake or slimy in a way, like the way that she was doing it. So it didn't resonate with me. So I wasn't gonna I wasn't gonna do that. That didn't feel right to me. Right. So I just shifted it to what made it feel good to me. Right.
Man, you bring up a great point. My goodness. So just listen to what she just said. Everyone she was working with someone that there was no value. I won't say no, but there was not a full value alignment. I didn't. Their values were not the same across the board.
And the cool thing is, instead of just shunning what she learned from this individual altogether, she took those things that she could use and implemented them and integrated them into her own approach. And this is something very important. I have seen so many speakers on stage. I've gone to way too many events over my life. There are some are like that shaky snake oil salesmen and women and others are perfect and wonderful and integrity based. I learned from every single one of them, in fact, one of the most shadiest of the people that I ever saw. I'm not going to mention any names. I learned a lot from that individual and incorporated some of what I learned into my next very next presentation. And so it's OK to learn from even those that you're not in W alignment from. That's what I got from what you just said, Micaela, and that's all I knew.
Find your own alignment. Yes. Find your own alignment.
Yeah. I mean, I have spoken from stage. I've been recorded. I've been given advice to dress certain ways. Only I don't dress that way. But OK, I'll do it. And then I just don't feel right. You know, it's little things that's that's not. Nothing wrong with that. It's kind of like wearing a team uniform. Know, in a sense. You know, but it wasn't that big a deal. But I just it's that it could be something that subtle as well. Make it your own. When it is your own place to do that. Like if you're helping someone else out. Well, it's best to probably conform with them as long as it doesn't go too far out of your value system, which dressing a certain way that didn't go out of mine at all. It was just different. Like I don't like that. Where sort of like, OK, I'll do it. Phenomenal. My goodness. We've done. We have. You have given so much value in our short time already. It's it's just unbelievable. So. You're you're like the perfect human being, right? You've never, ever stumbled. Everything you learned and model the right things. Everything just fit. It was perfect. Never had an issue from that day forward, right?
I think so.
And so to to, you know, appeal to those that are human like us. What would you say if you know, this is far from a learning standpoint? What would you say? Some of the biggest maybe just pick one of the biggest mistakes or hoops that you've had or experience that you learn from that helped propel you even further into the realm of success.
Whew, man. There's so many to think of. I think I think the biggest is probably not trusting myself. So finding myself in situations where maybe I could have put myself forward and I didn't. I held back and then it came back to bite me. Right. So those are situations and other situations could be maybe just just not not communicating. Clearly, that's in that other city, other places where maybe I was too scared to either communicate exactly what I felt or what I thought. And then in not communicating, then there was a big, big miscommunication. Right. So those would probably be the bigger ones. You know, since just being clear, not holding back and having and communicating authentically and see just the fact that you say those, that's testament right there to you.
You know, people be aware like Micaela is about those things that happen because you use those as learning learning points and you can improve from there.
And it doesn't mean you're ever going to be perfect and you'll never make that mistake again. But you'll it'll be, you know, less there'll be less probability that that will ever happen. Not trusting myself, that could also be, you know, because it's nerve wracking. You know, it's gonna get you out of your comfort zone. I know I can do this, but dead gun. Gernhardt I'm nervous, right? And then not communicate clearly. My goodness. I mean, learning to take cause for all communication is huge. You know, if if two people if I'm talking with somebody and they don't get what I'm saying, I've learned to say, well, that that's on me. I'm either not listening intently enough or I'm not communicating in their language well enough. And so when I take that, we get to the solution much faster. And it's kind of like, you know, for guys, it's like that's another ego swallower. Like, this is not me.
I'm I'm messing up and we don't want to. No one wants to be wrong. Right.
And actually, you know, you bring up a point. It's. We're a hundred percent responsible in every situation. So like if you and I, Brian, had until a discussion or a disagreement. I'm 100 percent responsible. You're 100 percent responsible. So I'm a hundred percent responsible of how I show up and how I interpret. And same for you. And then somewhere in between there, we find a common ground where we can either agree to disagree or we agree or we disagree. Right.
So, yeah, it's taking ownership of ourselves and taking over ownership and respect and being responsible for what we create, even if it's not what we want to create.
Exactly. And for those of you that are in business watching and listening, think about how this can impact you in your communication with your current clients, with your future clients, you know, to be at cuts and say, well, I'm not getting this point across properly. So let me adjust myself to enable that to happen either by listening more intently or rewording. And you know, a lot of this you can learn techniques using neuro linguistic programming on better communication skills. There are so many cool ways to do it. I'm not going to give away here, but neuro linguistic programming is often thought of mostly as a personal development tool, which it is and it can be. And I have applied it directly to business. In fact, that's how I learned it was in a business orientated setting. I guess if that's even a word orientated oriented. Yeah. And so I learned at first on how to use it more effectively for communicating with, like I said, clients, team teammate, team members of your team. That's just part of what we utilize in LP for their summer is so vast. It's so amazing. And that's I guess that's one of the messages I want to put forth to everyone watching is to connect with Micaela. You know, there are many. There are several NLP practitioners across at least the United States that I'm familiar with. If for any reason, you know, you're unable to come to L.A., maybe you're watching from the East Coast and you just can't make it. Let's let's let's have a discussion and figure it out, because between myself, Micaela and and our our respective connection bases, we can hook you up, get you set up. But I would first recommend someone that I have worked with and know personally, like this young lady to my left, frankly, because that's what this this show is also partly for me to have you showcased. And that's what I want, because that's for me to help others to get the word out to, you know, shout the word promote. You help me market. I mean, I'm telling the truth. This is what we're doing, we're.
I'm helping to moderate. And I appreciate that. Yeah, I appreciate that. Because these are ways and how we we put ourselves out there. Right. So, yeah, absolutely. If anybody's interested in I'll be I actually combined an LP with emotion card. So emotion code is more of a hackerspace legality. So I combined the two together because I feel that when I combine the two together, I can actually serve my clients in a more well-rounded and holistic way.
So I use both modalities when I work with people love it.
And I've looked it into I have not doubt gone all the way through, but like EAFE and others to do the same thing, to kind of stack, if you will, with different technologies on each other. Because, yeah, why not just be more empowering, more powerful. So there you heard it right here. You get it all. Not just one amazing science and technology, but two. And there's I'm sure there's more because after reading that by online. My goodness, that's amazing. All right. Let's let's lighten the load a little bit as if that was kind of a big question about making mistakes. And I love your honesty about it. And you thought you thought it through. You could tell it was authentic. And we've all been there. I think every one of us has been there. And those are those can be big mistakes that can be very costly. And learning from them is.
And being aware of them first and then learning is very important. But when it gets down to it, you know, we're doing all this for a certain reason. Right? We're serving others where we're looking to earn an income so we can serve even more in skiller business.
But when it gets down to it for you personally, what makes you happy?
What makes me happy? Well, you know, I asked that question to myself many years ago when I actually started on my own journey of evolution and self-discovery and really stepping into to that bigger conversation for myself and what I discovered when I asked myself that question.
I actually asked myself two questions what do I love and what makes me happy? And obviously, you. What do I love? I love my family. You know, I love travelling, Nina, all of those things. But when I thought about what makes me happy. The biggest answer that I got was making other people happy. Like, what makes me happy is really supporting someone else's journey of evolution because I know where I was before and I know where I am now. I know the journey that that it took for me to go from A to B. And I know that it's totally possible for everybody else as well. And so I get the most joy and pleasure from experiencing transformation. And when I experience other people's transformation, they're happy.
And so then I'm happy as well. True to form that you are a serving a servant, first based, heartfelt entrepreneur.
I could tell that from the get go. And that's that's very common. I love the same thing. I mean, that was resonate with me so big, as you know, before I jumped and transposition my business into what I'm doing now.
I was in the fitness arena and nothing made me happier than seeing their progress. Right. You know, we get on weekly calls and just get an update how they're doing once a month, do measurements not every week and then see how they're improving. Listen to what they're saying. I used an LP in this fitness approach. So it was both mental and physical. They fear their reactions, their responses from people that they know seeing you. You seem different. What's going on in a good way. And it's because we just finished an LP session, a breakthrough session that we can before this stuff like that.
It just makes you swell up with happiness, with pride, with joy that you were you had a positive impact on another individual. And that's more than money. That's, I think, what makes the world go around. Yeah, we need math and science. That's that's like a it's an artifact of what we do, but it's not the reason why we do what we do. Cool. I knew that was going be my answer. Of course, I'm a mind reader, too. No kidding. Now, you've been an entrepreneur for quite some time now.
Have you ever had an actual job? Oh, yes. And so now you've seen both sides, right? And so this one I love to ask because I. The reaction is usually quick, but it doesn't matter. There's no competition here. But if you were to characterize your life.
In one word, if you were to characterize your life as an entrepreneur, in one word, what would that word be?
You as one word, as an entrepreneur.
Yes. Daring. You love that. I'm writing that down because I do, I dare.
I've gone to a place where I can say that I dare to stand out. I dare to serve. I dare to expand. I dare to share. Right.
So, yeah. I see a book in you on that title. But there will not be. I'm going to write that down. Where's my pen? Paper.
And we actually have a good friend of mine, Ken Rashan, who's on watching and commented earlier. That can help you with that if you need any assistance in writing the book. He's helping me with my book. I'm writing Mind Body Business as we speak. Well, he's an amazing gentleman. If you want a connection later, let me know then. I can see that everybody is that is our amazing guy. He was on the show as well. We're close to the end here. And there's one more question that I love to end all of my shows with. It's kind of a it's an intriguing question similar to the in one word, characterize your life as an entrepreneur, similar in that the answers are quite wide and varied to the question I'm about to pose. And the interesting thing is no two question are no two answers as of yet. I've done over 70 shows now at the time of doing this one.
And no two answers have been identical yet. It's it's so cool. And so if it takes you some time to think of the answer, don't worry about. That's cool.
Do whatever works for you if it comes to immediately. Then it comes to you immediately. If it comes to you three minutes from now, then it's OK. It's your answer. It's very personal to you.
That makes sense. Yes. With that said, before we jump into that. I promise those that are watching live that I always tell them a way that they can win a five nights day at a five star luxury resort in Mexico.
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That's good. Better than normal. OK, now in all seriousness. All right. Are you ready for this wonderful question?
Yes. All right. Here we go.
Mikaela? Well, how do you define success? Whew.
Oh, that's a good one. So success to me is really the degree to which you engage. So it's the degree to the degree that you engage in life is to the degree that you're gonna be successful. So if you just sit on your couch and do nothing, what's gonna happen? Probably not going to be that successful. But if you actually step outside your comfort zone, take action. Go out there. Make things happen. You're probably going to get to a certain degree and level of success. So I would say it's really how you engage, how you engage with life, how you engage with your business, how you engage with your clients, how you engage in your marketing, you know, all of it.
It's what's the degree of your engagement? That's what I would say.
Wonderful and true to form yet again a different answer than everyone previous to you, which is phenomenal because it's a very personal thing. You know, it's a subject. It's very. Is it subjective or objective? I always get that. I think it's unique to each individual what their definition of success is. And that's phenomenal. So it's basically you feel your success. If you are participating and playing full-out. Yes. And that's phenomenal. I love that definition. In fact, I don't dislike a single definition of success that we've had on the prior sixty nine plus shows.
They're all good. Yes. And oh, by the way, we do have one more gift for everyone watching and listening. And that gift comes by way of this young lady sitting to my left right now. Like to describe what that is and how folks can get to it. I will do my part to put up the information as you send that out or talk about it. So go ahead.
Absolutely. So, you know, my specialty is emotional intelligence, otherwise known as E Q.
And so if any of you listening or watching want to know the five emotional intelligence, the key steps to becoming a master in your life and business, you can go to W W W dot your E Q dot info. So your HQ dot info and you can fill in the little boxes there and you will be emailed the cute little download with the five keys to life and business masteries, the five emotional intelligence keys. You can also, if you're not in front of your computer and maybe you're on your phone, you can also text E Q 2 3 1 9 6 6.
I think that's it, right? 3 1 9 6 6.
I've got 3 1 9 9 6 5, OK. There you go. So 3 1 9 9 6. That's not is it? Is. It is.
I was just I'm a little dyslexic so. Yeah. So text E Q 2 3 1 9 9 6 and you'll get the same p_d_f_ e-mail to your inbox.
Fantastic. Wow, what an amazing, amazing show. So much of value. Thank you so much for having me. Oh, God. Thank you. You know, thank you. Because, you know, you're recovering from a little cold or an illness that had you down just recently. Thank you for showing up like you're practicing what you preach. You're this this woman. You want to get connected with her and to do that. What's the best way for them to connect with you directly?
Well, they could they could look me up on Facebook under my name, Mikhail Opacity. You can email me at Micaela at Love You Revolution dot com or you can call my office for 2 4 2 4 2 5 8 0 4 2 8.
Awesome. Awesome. Well, Micaela, we're gonna call this a show, a very successful one, a very value packed one. Thank goodness. I think I'm going to start charging for people to watch our live shows because the value is just incredible. Appreciate you so very much. I know you have. Thanks so much. Yeah, yeah. I know you have things to get to right after the show's over, so I don't want to detain you any further for on behalf of Micaela Passeri.
This is Brian Kelly. And this has been The MIND BODY BUSINESS Show. We'll see you again next week. Until then, so long and be blessed. Bye bye now.
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MICAELA PASSERI is an Award winning Emotional Intelligence Expert, International Speaker, Author and founder of the Love You Revolution training programs who is committed to helping entrepreneurs identify, resolve and release emotional and mental blocks in the way of their full success by freeing themselves from the conditioning of their life experiences and the trapped emotions hidden in the subconscious mind. She helps her clients resolve issues such as low self-confidence, inner conflict, anxiety, fears, procrastination, limiting beliefs, depression and business stagnation. Trained in NLP, MER and Emotion Code, Micaela helps people on a soulful journey to discover their voice, become more self-aware and master their inner and outer relating to the world. She is also the Founder of the Love You Revolution clothing line, Former Co-President of the Santa Monica Holistic Chamber of Commerce and current Regional Director for the Global Woman Club Los Angeles.
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